Not for everyone

Different people bring out different parts of us. which is why someone can refer to you as mean and someone else might say you are the nicest person they know. does that mean the person who finds you to be mean never seen the good side of you or the person who finds you to be the nicest haven't seen the bad side of you? No.

This just means that these two different people experienced a different side of you in which they decided to focus on the most.

Does the person who refer to you as mean realize they are the cause of your reaction towards them? most of the time the answer is no.

Does the person who find you to be the nicest realize they are the cause of your reaction towards them? same, most of the time is no.

A lot of us do not understand emotions and feelings, and how we trigger the good or bad in others. Which is why, we usually don't recognize we are the cause of the negative or positive feelings others feel when around us. Although how we react will always be on us, what we feel is usually cause by the people and things who surround us.

(((I hope you get what I mean)))

What I stated above leads to someone's insecurities or confidence being triggered by just being around someone or something that affects their positive or negative emotions. So, it is always best to not allow how someone else feels become a personal attack on oneself.

communication should be able to assist solve animosity or misunderstandings.

Again, NO ONE should be held accountable for how someone else chooses to feel after things have been clarified.

Then, there is the other side of the coin... You are not for everyone!

Understanding you will not be liked or accepted as you are by everyone is key to understanding the other side of the coin.

Maybe you have already lived this, where someone who truly despise you for whatever reason, yet they act like they are all for you. they'll help you, laugh with you, create memories with you but inside they hate your existence.

These people see the good in you but due to the fact that they DECIDED to dislike you, their egos and pride do not allow them to admit their wrongs, so they develop the NEED to be petty towards you instead of making amends. as they go on, they start to get infatuated with you or obsessed. By this time, their goal is to gather mutual people you have in common sometimes even people who don't know you at all, to dislike you and work against you.

The obsession they feel to make sure what they feel gets validated or proved right becomes like an itch they can't stop scratching.

personally, I do not understand how someone can have so much energy and time to serve the darkness yet find it so hard to just let go or disconnect from someone they do not like, love or care for.

Which in reality we know they have some type of secretive admiration or desire towards this person they so "dislike".

Is ok to walk away from people, places and things that do not serve your highest of good with the knowledge that not all bad things are bad. Some bad experiences are there to help us grow and elevate into a better us.

Understanding the balance of negative and positive feelings and emotions can help us with learning from "bad" situations which leads to assisting us to be better humans to ourselves and to those who surround us, or we encounter.

“When we truly care about someone, we also care for their feelings and emotions as well”.

XOXOXO